"I did pick the right person, but I was telling myself at the time that it was stupid and selfish," he admits.

"I said something about him having a brother to look after-" He rolls his eyes at himself. "While having a pity party in my head. And he just...looked concerned and stopped me and told me we're family. And that's when I started crying." He smiles, rueful, but grateful, too.

"And then we talked, it wasn't...bad, exactly. But I dropped some things I know about the war he came from."